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I was rolling the chapaties when (mobile divorce) I listened the call of my mother - in-law, "Hello you know now-a-days mental illness is increasing." I was little bit shocked to listen her talk this time. Generally she used to tell me many things which are the product of her keen observation. This is her special skill & usually I listen her talk to upgrade my general knowledge. Most of the time I am the only listener to response her updates about the neighbourhood, about relatives, about funny facts about the people in our vicinity. I keep on giving her responses like "Hmm, Oh!! I see, Ok, Good," You might have thought that I do not give proper ear to my mother-in-law giving only yes/no answer. That is not the fact, these are not my curt reply or Indifference to her talk. Actually she does not allow anyone to talk before she completes her own story.

But today I was shocked to listen that mental (mobile divorce) illness is increasing...!! so I asked her where did you read, or who told you? "No one told me. I myself observed this fact many times. I saw the group of mental people walking and talking around. They talk to themselves, they gesticulates without any reason, without a companion to talk with them, on the road, at the square, in the garden everywhere!!!...
"You know Tushar, Tushar Joshi!, grandson of Vinayakrao Joshi !!!!... is infected by mental (mobile divorce) illness too.", my mother in law threw a bomb atvme. I bounced surprisingly, "What Tushar?? Not possible Tushar is so intelligent IITN, he is here just for the Diwali vacation. I have seen him many time having his book in hand and strolling on the terrace of his house. Many times I have met him at evening walk with his sister. I saw him playing melodious song on his piano just yesterday. How could he be mentally affected !!
No, it's not possible."
Now my mother- in-law moved in the role of advocate, offering the proof to support (mobile divorce) her observations, "If you don't believe, ask Kulkarni Kaku who was yesterday with me when I saw him talking to himself." Our talk was interrupted when my daughter Mukta came in. As soon as she entered into the kitchen, my sasu maa shouted at her, "Why are you talking to yourself? Are you mad?" "No" Mukta was puzzled by the sudden attack of the grandma, "I am not talking to myself ajji, I am talking with my friend Riya on phone." indicating at her bluetooth. Now my tubelight flashed brightly. Giggling loudly and remarked, "Yes this young generation is suffering from mental illness but they are not suffering from mental illness." "What do you mean by suffering and not suffering?, my mother in law was confused with my contradictory sentence.
"Oh, mummiji", going near to her, I said, "It means that they are not talking (mobile divorce) to themselves but to someone on phone beyond your vision using bluetooth or earbuds. So they are not mentally ill but they are mentally ill in the sense that they are addicted to the screen an are restless if they haven't phone for a second." Saying, 'okay' my mother in law left our discussion auditorium. Now in that auditorium I was alone and my self talk started. When we are on the bus, waiting at doctors clinic, simply walking on the street, we are engrossed in the phone. My one of the friends Manju Shah once told me that we are not guilty of having addicted to the phone. It is the fault of those technicians & engineers who have structured the phone with it's app so smartly that we are stuck to it.
"Manju, don't take this point lightly. It's bit a serious topic", I earnestly (mobile divorce) remarked. Noticing gravity, she asked me whether she is addicted? I referred her Smartphone Compulsion Test designed by the University of Connecticut's Dr David Greenfield which is available online. Use of mobile releases dopamine in our brain which triggers our pleasure receptors and we experience pleasure. If a specific activity causes consistently dopamine to be released in the brain, we start to connect that activity with dopamine release and we will engage in it more often.
Ramsay Brown who is a technology executive, computational (mobile divorce) neuroscientist & founder of the startup dopamine lab. He's had the privilege to work at the edges of theoretical nanochemistry, brain mapping etc. Labs platform subtly entices users to interact with an application and gets them to do so more often by offering a reward in the form of a fun animation or message, helping developers increase engagement and retention. His lab works on the idea of how might he keeps a user on the platform for an extra 30 minutes a day?” He has used algorithms social media app. Algorithm is framed to trigger a dopamine release of individual user. For example the app stores likes and messages from the other users, and does not release it in real time. Rather algorithm notes the particular pattern of the user active on these social media platforms. And then releases this stored messages or likes.This other users feedback release the dopamine and respectively the pleasure in the brain of the user and it keeps him consistently stuck to the mobile.
Ramsay Brown is such a designer to (mobile divorce) hack into the ‘golden pot of human behavior These devices were capable of detecting and measuring our almost every behavior, and sending them to the cloud to be used in a computation about if that was the optimal time to notify or trigger us for this type of behavior. All of this, together with the ability to push notifications down to our phones, smart watches, etc, provided the means for his fellow designers to intervene in the very makeup of daily life, and in real-time. And the users are hooked in the trap unknowingly to them.
Mobile is the device which allows us to distract (mobile divorce) from the intended work. Destraction is considered as a negative aspect, but in reality it is completely natural phenomenon. But it is half truth. If you are reading or writing, the distractions are just from the outside; for example someone knock at the door, someone rings the bell, someone calls you. But when you use mobile, the chances of destractions are more, prominent and from inside the mobile itself. Adds, links and pop-ups come on the screen where we are trying to concentrate. Brain has to do extra efforts to concentrate. If it fells to maintain our focus, we succumb to destractions more easily, & start to check email or search web, instead of sticking to what we intended for.
If we want to divorce from this addiction (mobile divorce) of mobile, first we have to search which work should be more prioritised or whether we have to think of which work is important to be involved in. We have to make a month long program for this breakup plan suited to you. During this period you should notice that your brain craves for dopamine reward by checking your phone. This will be warning alarm for you not to be involved in this transitory happiness triggered by dopamine. If you can do this and control yourself then only that business set up to catch the innocent users in their trap will be broken. And finally you will get success to involve in the active work of your life taking you towards the new and real achievements.
Best of luck to all for your mission of divorcing yourself from the over use of mobile phone.

Dr. Seema Deshpande

Dr. Seema Deshpande
Ph. D. English Literature
National playerin Kho-Kho & Athletics
Headmistress in Vidarbha Buniyadi High school & Jr. College